Counselling only deals with disciplinary and serious mental and emotional problems.
The majority of those who seek counselling help are usually stressed with their daily life issues and also seeking for personal growth and development. Stress is normal and it is part of our life. Sometimes, counselling may deal with individuals who are having severe problems and even mental disorders but it does not represent the majority of the counsellor’s client.
Counsellor will work together with psychiatrists for individuals with mental disorders. Furthermore, the individual who attends counselling may help to prevent the issues to become severe.
Seeking for counseling help means the person is weak.
In contrast, an individual who seeks for help has the courage to face his/her issues and is ready to get help for self-improvement.
Counselling is not helping at all.
Counselling is often successful when the individual is willing to work together, honest and open to discuss about his/her issues with the counsellor. Moreover, the individual hold the responsibility to decide and change for his/her life. A counsellor does not force or give advice except for any situations that may harm the person or others. Furthermore, each individual will experience different processes based on the client’s needs, goal and as well as decision.
I’m totally fine, there is no reason to seek for counselling.
Generally, everyone has emotions and thoughts that will weigh their minds no matter how fine the individual does in his/her life. Sometimes it may work well if there is someone to talk and listen to you emphatically. You have the rights to seek or not to seek for counselling help.
It is awkward to talk to the counsellor about my personal issues.
It is common to feel uneasy when talking about your personal issues to the counsellor during your first meeting. However, it takes some time and the uneasiness feeling will slowly fade away once you are familiar and comfortable with the counselling process and with the counsellor.
Counsellor doesn’t know about me and how does he/she helps me?
It will be much better to have someone who is not part of your life when listening to your personal issues. Hence, talking to the counsellor will help to get neutral, less bias and also non-judgmental understanding about yourself and your issues. Counsellor will get to know more about you and your issues through the sharing sessions during counselling.
Other people will know if I’m going to counselling.
Counsellor ensures all counselling sessions are strictly private and confidential during and after the counselling sessions, with exception of certain circumstances:
- Serious or foreseeable harm to yourself or to another person
- When a child or protected adult is at risk of harm or abuse
- As ordered by legal court
- Contagious or life-threatening disease
- Use of illicit drugs
The counselling room is located at the end of the corner room at 1st floor to ensure complete privacy for the individual.
Counsellor will help solve my problems.
A counsellor is neither a definite problem solver nor the fixer of your problems. Each of us is unique and different. A counsellor will discuss the issues together with you to come out with your own solutions and also help you to make your own decision which is the best work for your issues.
Counselling takes a long period of time.
The duration of the counsel is based on your needs, progress and goal. Counselling is more focused on the client’s progress and the quality of the counselling outcome. It is fine to discuss with the counsellor how many session you prefer as well as can be terminated anytime with the counsellor with prior notice given.
CONTACT YOUR COUNSELLOR:
Tan Chin Yee
Registered and Licensed Counselor
Master of Education (Guidance and Counselling) – UPM
Bachelor of Social Science (Hons) Psychology – UTAR